It’s marriage, stupid

In a column remarkably welcoming to Huckabee, David Brooks talks divorce as economic trouble, even devastation:

Democrats talk about wages. But real middle-class families have more to fear economically from divorce than from a free trade pact. A person’s lifetime prospects will be threatened more by single parenting than by outsourcing. Huckabee understands that economic well-being is fused with social and moral well-being, and he talks about the inter-relationship in a way no other candidate has.

“More by single parenting than by outsourcing.”  Family values here.

We like to think the worst?

This is a rather good concise rundown on how things are not as bad as they seem:

Only 36 percent of us approve of our president, and fewer still (18 percent) approve of our Congress. We say our confidence has been shattered, and three out of four think our country is “on the wrong track.” So we tell pollsters, as we slink into the new year.

Surprise: The economy added more than 1 million new jobs last year. It grew at an annual rate of between 3 percent and 4 percent. Share prices rose by over 5 percent, with tech shares up by double digits, these gains being recorded in weeks in which the financial markets are said to be in turmoil.

Exports soared, bringing down the long-standing trade deficit. In November, supposedly traumatized consumers splurged, increasing spending by the largest amount in 3½ years. Final figures for Christmas are not yet in, but my guess is that early pessimistic estimates will prove wrong.

Meanwhile, Peter Wehner and Yuval Levin point out in Commentary that crime is way down; teenage drug use, pregnancies, smoking and drinking are all on the decline; welfare reform is working, bringing down child poverty; and the divorce rate is falling.

There’s more.  In my opinion, we are victims of mass-media doomsaying.

Shut-in reading

What to read while double-casted (22 days to go, b.t.w.)?  Try Black Oxen, by Gertrude Atherton, a 1923 novel set in the New York of its day, full of Edith Wharton-style depiction of High Society and also of the day’s “Sophisticates,” namely the newspaper-literary set that has been so long attracted to the big city.

I got Black Oxen — the name is from a line from Yeats about time as inexorable — as a gift through www.abebooks.com, which I recommend as a place to find the hard to find, out of print, etc. at low, low prices.  Atherton as reminder of Edith Wharton fails, however, when we consider this as her only book about New York.  She was a Californian, in fact, and has another novel, of many, called The Californians.

Wharton’s A Backward Glance, her memoirs, nonetheless beckoned when I’d done with Black Oxen, which was demanding as to extended conversations but rewarding as per characterizations and plot suspense.  Those conversations contributed a lot to the suspense.

I also renewed acquaintance with The New Criterion, a 10 times a year highly literate exercise in social, etc. criticism.  More later on this, as on other materials for the shut-in.  . . . .

Two-cast Bowman again

23 days to cast-off.  Just did the stairs again, dressed for outdoors.  But a smidgen of iciness left after shovelling, and my wiser head prevailed.  Later.

The casts are “weight-bearing.”  That is, balance has been the entire issue since Day Two post-op, when still in hospital I got out of bed and walked a few steps to a chair in my room.  Back home that night, it was me and my walker, but only for a few days, maybe a week, after which I mostly flew right on my own, with hand out for wall or something else.

#1 Daughter got me a high chair with black leather cushion top, on which I could get on and off with a little bit of shove and balancing.  Found it in an artist supplies store.  For sitting on at one’s easel, I suppose.  That was Xmas Day, a week ago.  She adorned it with a red ribbon that is still there.

Was back here 12/14, and in a few days was getting out of bed on my own and heading for the kitchen, where I got my bkfst of coffee, toast, etc.  A major hurdle had nothing to do with balance and locomotion but rather of internal motion, as of bowels.  The visiting nurse suggested strong drink and a suppository.  The latter is a defecation grenade which you put in the right aperture — not in your mouth, stupid! — and wait ten or 15 minutes.

This was my seventh day of non-defecation, and when the results came on schedule, I became one happy camper indeed.  Thenceforward, no problem, I am happy to say, and that’s all you are going to hear about that, except here to congratulate #2 Son, who went to Dressel’s Ace on Chi Ave. for a pair of handles to go next to the toilet on the window frame and returned with a beautiful 3–foot or so bar, thanks to advice he got there.  Next thing I knew, I was lowering and raising myself by right hand firmly clenching said bar and pulling.

Oh.  One more thing.  With casts up to thigh, how to fit on t-seat?  Simple, we discovered.  Raise seat, do without, holding urine-catcher at the right place so as to aim to please — as in the old men’s room admonition, “We aim to please.  You aim too, please.”

Now, a thought for the ages.  I regret none of this, fall and all, I told #2 Daughter on the phone to Pa.  It would be the height of bad manners to do so, I figure.  G.K. Chesterton saw no sense in divorce, being so grateful to be married once.  He was full of gratitude for the gift of life, which is nothing we earned.  Ditto Sir Walter Scott, who invoked “Sat est vixisse” in his Journal.

“Square the odds, and good-night Sir Walter about sixty,” he wrote with regard to an illness of which his brother died at 50, his father at 70 and from which he suspected he also suffered. 

“I care not, if I leave my name unstained, and my family properly settled.  Sat est vixisse,” meaning, “It is enough to have lived.”

So let us live.